okay, let’s get started… because I know you’re wondering, “what are you thinking saying that out loud?!”
first, I’m not drunk and I haven’t drank anything but water, coffee, and a milk shake in the past 72 hours. So you can sign off now if you were hoping I was a over here kickin’ em back 🤣
but I do still have a hangover….
It’s called a Vulnerability Hangover, and as a INFJ I think this is just my life going forward.
Brene Brown explains VH’s as that sinking (almost paralyzing) feeling you get as you second guess yourself after you share your thoughts, feelings, etc with others.
You feel great at first until you start to wonder how it could’ve went if you said “this” instead, or what would it be like if you never said a thing..
Vulnerability hangovers really tend to happen after you share a piece of your heart (and all it’s mess), let people in, and then basically completely FREAK the heck OUT (usually internally) over what you just said… It’s getting scared and wondering if people will accept the messy, awkward, and vunerable you!
And that kind of hangover hit me hard the past few days. Every notification freaked me out a bit… I quickly wondered “was this a mean comment? Does this person hate me now?”
I saw some people that could not wrap their heads around what I was saying, and really wanted me to know about it 🤷🏻♀️ And it all started to feel too messy, too hard and I just wanted to rewind and shut my mouth.
HOWEVER, by a large majority, you guys heard my heart and understood where I was coming from, and I so loved connecting with so many of you in the comments and private messages!
I know that vunerability gives life to authentic and real connections, even online. Those are the kind of relationships we can all grow from. Those are the kind of people I pray to always be surrounded with and that is likely the type of person you are if you are reading this.
Because of you, I feel inspired to write more, vlog more and just show up more. I have truly found my tribe in all of you (even being in Iowa), and it means the world to be able to share our lives with you!
Now I want to encourage you…
If you are considering doing or saying something that feels a little scary, I want you to know that I understand that fear and anxiety can make the awkward feelings hurt PHYSICALLY (I know).. However, I promise the more you let God guide you life, and the more you begin to let people in, the deeper the connections and friendships you will start to be blessed with.
The next time you feel called to speak up or take action, I want to encourage you to pray about it and do it if you feel lead! Even if it makes you feel sick (like you’d prefer to have a REAL hangover lol) and the negatives weigh you down a bit, you will slowly start chiseling down a bit of that fear that holds you back!
This world truly needs more people who boldly love others, without being a jerk about it 💕 So lets get more hangovers by speaking up… just let’s make sure they are the vulnerability kind!!